Bicep curls for the brain

[swan_tower]

Once again, I’m trying to get back into the habit of meditating. Or maybe just into the habit, since I’ve never quite made it firmly stick.

Two things are helping this time, though. One is telling myself that it’s okay to just go for ten minutes: I don’t need to push to increase that to fifteen or twenty or thirty. Maybe once I’m really and truly in the habit of ten minutes every day, but not until then; it’s a lot easier to declare “for crying out loud, it’s only ten minutes” and then just sit down than it is to mark out a longer block of time.

The other is akin to the epiphany I had some years ago about balance. I stopped thinking of it as a state (I am balanced) and started thinking of it as a process (I am balancing) — which had the effect of making me better at balancing, because I no longer thought of any deviation from the center as failure. It’s just part of the process of balancing, and the rest of the process is bringing yourself back to center.

Same thing here. Meditating isn’t the state of having my mind clear and focused on my breathing. It’s the process of noticing when my thoughts have wandered, and bringing them gently back to my breathing. At least in mindfulness meditation — I don’t have much experience with other kinds. I’ve started thinking of it as bicep curls for my brain, strengthening my mindfulness every time I return my attention to my breathing. Except that bicep curls are an effort, and this isn’t supposed to feel like heavy lifting; the metaphor breaks down after a while. Even so.

Process, not state. Understanding that wobbles happen. Not giving up, but trying again, and accepting that “trying again” is how it goes. As the most recent newsletter from 10% Happier said, it isn’t about not having thoughts, but about not getting caught up in them. Letting them pass by. I keep telling myself, “I can think about that later.”

Less than ten minutes later. Maybe someday I’ll get back to longer stretches, but for now, ten minutes is a good workout.

Mirrored from Swan Tower.

Comments

[twistedchick]

For what it's worth: I have found that there are two kinds of focus in meditation, and sometimes if one doesn't work for me it's because the other one is doing a great job. The first is what I think of as narrow or closed focus: you are focusing on one thing, like a candle or a koan or a bell, and nothing else matters. The second is open focus: you are here, in the midst of everything, and you notice how the birds sound and how the traffic sounds and the way the air feels on your skin and how your skin touches your clothes and that smell from the kitchen -- you notice all of these in the moment and let them go by. They happened, but they're not still going on.

I tend to use the second because it's more process.

And 10 minutes, if you can keep at it, is excellent for meditation.

[okrablossom]

Ride the wobble :)

[aishabintjamil]

I suspect that we're coming at meditation from entirely different perspectives (mine being Western esoteric, while I suspect yours relates to your martial arts training), however despite that, the approach you describe if very much like that which my teacher advises. When stray thoughts intrude, simply acknowledge them and let them go. Being concerned that with them simply makes them stronger. In theory with practice they become fewer and stop. (I'll let you know if I ever get to that point. Haven't yet).