If you could choose some kind of alias to sign your anonymous comments with, I'd appreciate it. I want people to be able to join the discussion without having to identify themselves (given the topic, it only makes sense), but we may have more than one anonymous commenter, and a moniker at the end is easier to notice than the IP address.

I do agree that it's hard to judge things from the outside, when we may not have all the information . . . but I also agree with wshaffer that asking, asking, asking, asking, and then not asking sounds like "she'll forgive me for it later" logic.

And it seems that she did, in fact, forgive him. Maybe for good reasons; I won't judge her for that. But scenarios like this one are why I'm in favor of pushing "yes means yes" as a meme -- not putting the burden on people to speak up with a rejection (which can be really problematic in a lot of cases), but encouraging everybody to express their enthusiasm for what's happening, and to check for it if it isn't there.