"I won't claim it's the best mode in the world, but it works for me."

This is probably as good a time as any to mention that I really, really enjoyed looking at wedding dresses online with you and that if you ever want some assistence with more of the same, I know someone you could talk to. *ahem*

Personally, I think Pythia is onto something when she mentions the normativity of men's experiences as a possible contributing factor.

Me? I still tend to think that part of the problem is that there is a certian level where Spec Fic is deeply conservative in some of it's "values".